Model Behavior

Model what you wish to see in your kids behavior and actions. If they see good standards played out before them they'll know what the correct behavior looks like and will not look at you as if your confusing them when you expect the same behavior from them.

Well modeled behaviors and actions include the "Fruit of the Holy Spirit." This is a biblical term that sums up nine attributes of a Christian life according to St. Paul in his Letter to the Galatians "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control." Galatians 5:22-23.

These attributes for modeling behavior are also very effective in parenting:
Respectfulness
Confidence
Faith
Humbleness
Care
Concern

There's more to parenting than rules and schedules, the most impactful way to parent is through your own behavior. Your child will mimic your behavior so make sure you're modeling what you wish to see in your own kids.